Sexual Compatibility Test
for Married Couples & Long-term Relationships

What is a sexual compatibility test?
A sexual compatibility test is a structured self-reflection tool that helps couples identify where their physical and emotional intimacy is working well — and where genuine differences in desire, communication, initiation, or emotional connection may be creating distance. It is not a clinical assessment. It is a starting point for honest conversation and focused coaching work.

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Is this test suitable for long-term relationships as well as marriage?
Yes. The five dimensions measured: frequency and desire match, emotional connection, communication about sex, initiation and responsiveness, and value and expectation. They are equally relevant to any committed long-term relationship, married or not. The patterns this test identifies tend to become more significant the longer a couple has been together.

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Should my partner take the test too?
We recommend each partner take the test independently first without discussing answers beforehand. Comparing results afterwards is often more revealing than taking it together, because it surfaces differences in perception that neither partner may have realised existed. A significant gap between two partners’ scores on the same dimension is itself important information.

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What do the results tell me?
Your results show a score across five dimensions of sexual compatibility. The dimension with your lowest score is your primary focus area — the place where coaching work is most likely to produce meaningful change. Each result links to a relevant article and a starting point for a coaching session with Asher.

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Is this test clinically validated?
This test is informed by validated research instruments including the Sexual Compatibility with Spouse Questionnaire (Nekoolaltak et al., 2020), the Golombok-Rust Inventory of Sexual Satisfaction, and the New Sexual Satisfaction Scale. It is designed as a self-reflection and coaching tool, not a clinical diagnostic instrument. For clinical sexual health concerns, please consult a qualified professional.

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What happens after I take the test?
You receive a score across all five dimensions, a summary of your primary focus area, and a recommended next step and the option to start a free session with Asher, Therapy-Chats.com’s AI Relationship Coach, focused specifically on what your results surfaced.

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Is my result private?

Yes. Your responses and results are private to you. Therapy-Chats.com does not keep your results.